We all need help at times, but sometimes we are reluctant to ask for it.
We don't want to be needy or annoying, or maybe we don't like admitting we're not totally self-sufficient.
The present circumstances are forcing a lot of people to overcome that reluctance. It seems like we've been spending the past few years focusing on what drives us apart rather than what brings us together, but when it comes down to it, we need each other.
These days it's about needs that are much bigger than trying to sell books, but it does apply to that, too. I was reminded of this by an email from Derek Doepker, who runs ebookbestsellersecrets.com. Here's part of what he wrote:
"As an author, some "value judgments" could keep you from success.
I still hear from authors who are hesitant to ask their readers to review or share their books.
I've talked about this before, and I want to highlight the deeper reason for that hesitancy comes from a value judgment.
Often that value judgment is asking = annoying.
Consider this though...
Do you ever enjoy helping people?
Do you ever enjoy sharing your opinion?
Do you ever enjoy recommending things you feel others would like?
When you're an author, you're giving your readers all of these 'opportunities for enjoyment' when you remind them they can review and share your book.
Just don't be entitled about it. (clearly my value judgment lol)
It's not... 'review my book or you're dead to me.'
It's... 'If you enjoyed this book, it would mean the world to me if you left a review and shared it with others who may benefit the way you have.'
I think that applies to the broader situation, too.
What do you need?
What is keeping you from asking for it?
If it's the fear that people will resent it or find it too much, make it clear that if they can't do it, you will understand. And that if there's any way you can help them, they should feel free to ask, too.
If it's the fear that they won't come through for you when the chips really are down (in cases when it's about more than a book review), well, maybe that's good (if not always pleasant) to know. It doesn't mean they're bad people, but there are better times coming and when they do, don't you want to spend them with the people who have your back?
